In January of this year, I committed myself to self-development and really digging into some areas that need my personal attention. You know the ones. They are those things about yourself that you know are there, but you choose to look past them and avoid them because it’s easier to do so. In order to grow as a human and in my business, I can no longer push past these things. One of those areas about myself is organization and planning. My fly by the seat of the pants attitude is hurting my personal development and career growth. While my witty personality and quibs have gotten me far, if I really want to succeed, I need to commit and grow.
The truth is that people want to work with people they know, like, and trust. And part of trust is that your coworkers, partners, and clients can trust you are properly prepared, briefed, and organized. So earlier this year I was gifted a Panda Planner. It’s a real life paper planner that I’m using to prioritize goals, assign tasks, and help organize my day.
It feels strange to use a paper planner again going paperless in 2004 with my trusty Palm Pilot. The planner has given me focus and the satisfaction I feel when I cross a task off my to do list. What I uncovered deep in the crevices in using this planner is something that I’ve always known but tend to push away, and that is I have a lot of negative-self talk and imposter syndrome that likes to creep up on me.
Up to 70% of self-talk is negative. It’s time to change our internal dialogue. Click To Tweet
The negative self-talk has always been there, and at times it is louder than others. I’ve been able to combat it using meditation and also night-time self-hypnosis. I often hear a always a voice inside my head tell me that I’m not good enough. The voice tells me I’m not smart enough, I’m a horrible person, and I don’t deserve success. Those voices wake me up in the night and are with me in those quiet moments like on my drive home. The voices tend to creep up at certain points in my life when I’m close to a breakthrough or going through a major change or handling stress.
Research found that 60-70 percent of our self-talk is negative. However, we tend to think it’s more on the positive side of things. The same research from the University of Texas found that our expectations for self-talk are 60-75% positive.
It’s only recently that I’ve started talking back to my inner critic with positive affirmations and telling that voice they are wrong.
How Personal Daily Affirmations Have Helped Me
Part of the reason I love the Panda Planner is it’s focus is not just on organization and goal setting but also setting a daily, weekly, and month focus as well as an affirmation. This affirmation is something I focus on repeating it to myself several times a day and each time I check something off of my to do list. It’s been a great way to reinforce or remind myself that I’m awesome in a focused way when the negative self-talk tries to rear it’s ugly head.
There’s a lot of power in goals, setting intentions, and affirmations. I think it’s a great way to start a day, meeting, or as a gentle reminder to yourself that while you are a work in progress, you contribution is welcomed and unique.
I’m not alone in my use of positive affirmations or the number of people especially women who experience negative self-talk themselves. I believe we all struggle with mental health from time to time. I crowdsourced some of my friends favorites they use in my own attempt to expand the affirmations I use. While I am adventurous, I tend to go with what I know. I have ordered the same Starbucks drink for nearly 13 years which is a caramel macchiato. Only recently, have I gotten out of my comfort zone abandoning my daily drink altogether opting for a nice black coffee with almond milk.
Suspend disbelief and stay the course. It’ll eventually work. – h/t Rob Garcia
Haters are dime a dozen, but believers are pure gold. – h/t Rob Garcia
Educate, then sell. – h/t Dina Mederios
Be purposeful in your work and expect excellence from others. – h/t Phidelia Johnson
I am powerful. I can do anything but not be everything.
Don’t ruin a good today by thinking about a bad yesterday.
My mistakes do not define me or dictate my future success.
I accept me as I am & release the need for approval.
I deserve love, success, & happiness.
I keep my ind focused on positive outcomes instead of what isn’t working.
Each day I am learning to become a better me.
Success is coming to me through the right opportunities.
I am free to let go of anything that no longer serves me.
I am confident knowing that I provide value to others.
The best performers start with clear goals.
If you can’t measure it, you can’t manage it.
Always assume positive intent.
You don’t have bad days, just days when bad things happen sometimes. – h/t Carrie Corbin
I am always doing that which I do not know in order that I may learn how to do it. – h/t Carrie Corbin
I’m also a sucker for visual images and graphics to help motivate me too which is why I made the above list of affirmations into a series of images you are also free and welcome to use. These are formatted as squares and are sharable on social media. You are free to use them how you wish.
Silencing Your Inner Critic and Lessening Negative Self-Talk
Positive affirmations aren’t my silver bullet. They are just one part of my journey to being a better human being. I think that sometimes it is easy to forget that we all have struggles. We all have life obstacles, situations, and challenges that we are experiencing and working to overcome. I think it’s easy to look at this blog, or someone’s social profiles and think this person or someone else has it all. That is not ever the case. I hope these positive affirmations help you quiet your inner critic like they are working for me. Do you have a favorite positive affirmation you love? Feel free to share by leaving a comment below.